Come Walk In a Different Pair of Shoes

I don’t know how many time I change shoes that is psychological regarding our relationship my brother in law Earl who recently lost his son Nate.
Murphy went over to his sister Faith were his brother is staying and Earl thinking of coming out an visiting us and Murphy told him that he isn’t “Welcome”
But during the conversation Earl said I left my children with Tadita and Everett now one of my children is dead.
And Murphy said you “left them”
For about seven years Earl or anyone of his family basically shun us. I wrote letters to them trying to mend the fence.
See Earl likes to point his fingers at others for what he may be partly the blame for or he won’t take responsible for what is his fault.
Plus Murphy called and tried to bury the axe between them and Earl told Murphy “that he wasn’t his brother”
But now with Tadita has a different player in our little family stage. See at one time she and Earl were married and now she living with this guy Everett.
Info time…As far as I know Earl and Tadita is still legal married
But in the mean time he or Tadita never had anything to do with us and always felt like we are being shun.
Earl and Tadita spilt up on Easter Sunday of this year and he once never contact us.

On Saturday morning I stop over at Murphy sister Faith and in hope I could visit with Earl but he was still asleep.
I want to relay a few main points with placidness about the feeling and relationship between Murphy family and Earl family.
1) Since Nate died is the real reason he wanted to have a relationship with us so at a later date that we could use us against Tadita and Everett.
Statement time…I’m not pointing fingers at any one but it seems like they only want half truths out as long as it positive for them and not the other person
2) I think it in the long run it would help each person in healing if they can admit and take responsibility for their action in what went on.
It like when we had the fall out with Earl family. They would point the fingers at every one else and they are still doing it.
3) I wonder if something like tragic event would happen with Murphy and I . How would of Earl and his family would act toward us.
I know we all shall wear other people shoes and no pair of shoes are going to fit the same on anyone feet

As whole story unravels as I understand that Earl told his Nephew that the reason he left that Tadita wanted a solitary relationship with one man and Earl didn’t want one.
I have someone what a hard time swallowing this because
I’m fairly certain they both step out and fool around on each other. Before Earl and Tadita spilt the sheets. I know darn well the three of them was doing a three-some.

Sunday…Murphy and I went down to the gardenia and honest time…I’m not sure what to say to my brother in law
Because the isolated that Earl Mother in law but between the family and there a lot emotional turmoil all the way around.
But I got a couple wise words one from Master of Ceremony and the other from today speaker.
1. Let Wisdom and Compassion work together, be friends with each other.
2. We are giving different path in our life and on those path we may never know what my come up but don’t give up.

I’m strong believer in Karma and I don’t push karma to hard that I know it could come around and bite me on the ass.

Question time…Today they had viewing of my nephew and I don’t know why anyone would want to see a dead body.
I sure didn’t go
Later in the evening, as we was over at Faith and the phone call came in for the exact cause of death was deliberate suicide and in few minute I saw Earl face became sad.
But none of us will every know what went in Nate head.

Sometime ago my friend Alice asks me if I knew that Tadita was the first teacher to be tested for drugs.
At that time I never real thought anything of it and most place random drug test now. I knew when she was younger she did some drugs just like I did but thought she out grown in it and still may.
Then I talk to Murphy about what Alice said about it and what some interesting news about the subject.
One guy at place that Murphy worked did quite a bit of Meth and one of his relative is good friend of Ulanda unsure statement…I think it his sister and I’m sure the three of them was into Meth.
I’ve never known Ulanda to steel but always held a job down. So she pretty well moves out the stereotype junkie.

Here anther thing I thought was strange. When the arrangement was being made for Nate funeral.
Tadita and her mom were there. But she also brought in three other people and one of the people and not sure if it was senior or junior.
But the senior is known to be druggie and last I heard he didn’t work.
Then also Earl was there.
I could understand maybe that each of them having anther person there for support.

Monday they had Nate funeral. I guess we all tried to make since of this event. Confession time…during the service I was wondering if one of my child was in that casket how people would treat me and comfort me or reaction would be

I still ask question about one life path is given and our events that may happen on the way. Not even necessary of Nate death.

In this whole ordeal I never felt that Earl and Tadita didn’t love their children as we all aren’t prefect people

I guess there things in one life we may never know but it sometime hard to have faith.

Thank you for listen to me. I just need to vent A little later on I’ll post my nephew obituary.