Dear Dr. Phil

I should of wrote to you way before this
I’m asking for the skills to mend the fence between us and my husband brother family.
We real never had any real problems with Earl and Tadita until her mom Ulanda showed up.
Let me give you a run down on what went on...One winter evening Tadita took her mom and her step dad to look for some animals. Well they end up getting stuck.
Some how they were miss communication between all involved. Earl was out looking for them and Murphy arrived at Earl and Tadita home. Tadita and her mom was bad mouthing Earl and calling him a “worthless piece of shit” Murphy said to Ulanda and Tadita “You shouldn’t be talking bad about someone who trying to help you. Well Murphy told me he saw such a glare from Ulanda.
Then a little while later Murphy and his brother smoked some pot and Earl got stone and said “Ulanda ask if we were swingers” then he said “Oh we just know the same people”
honest time...We both have swung at different times in our life never with each other.
After they got stuck in the snow they real didn’t want anything to do mainly with Murphy. Couple of other things I question what happen.
Why would their youngest Son who was around 5 or 6 then look at Murphy and say “My mom and Grand mother hates you”
One day we were over at their home and Tadita said with a nerves chuckle and said “My mom ask if we were swinger”
One day Murphy and his brother went for a drive and talk. As I gather I understand Earl had Murphy calm down until he said “Thank God you never said any thing to Ulanda about us it would ruin my marriage”
One day I called up Earl and ask if Ulanda knew we were swinger and his voice went up 10 octaves and he said “I don’t recall”
Let me confess something of what I did wrong “I was over to their home about everyday” I had problem with staying home alone’ since they put me on zoloft it seem to be much better.
One day Murphy was feed up with there better then thou attitude and handed Ulanda a fold up picture of Earl, Tadita and I headless nude picture and wrote on it “lair doesn’t prosper”. To show Ulanda that they do or does the same thing we were doing or was doing. This picture was given to Ulanda along time after all the crap that I menchin above.
I believe Earl and or Tadita had something to do with telling Ulanda we were swingers and they couldn’t or shouldn’t have anything to do with us.
I have no problem Earl and Tadita contacting you at anytime you wish to contact Earl or Tadita I will give you the contact information until then I will respect their privacy, something they don’t do with a lot people.
I’m not interested playing tic for tac just the skill to start mending the fence between the two families
To put it a nut shell..Ulanda and Tadita stab People in the back and Earl has no guts to stand up to them.
. I will send Earl and Tadita a copy of this letter I believe in being pretty much up-front. I real don't think Earl and Tadita will appear on the show and I feel the fall out isn't all of our fault if it was Tadita and Earl would go on the show and point their finger at us. To be quite honest I don't see any reason to show up on the show if Earl and Tadita isn't willing to go. I have no problem sharing anything you may need. Neither one of us are rich people I like to see the fence mended and good gate put up.
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